Blogs about divorce and dating
In short, our generation is more prepared to approach our last few decades with a new set of priorities - albeit sometimes unprepared for the problems that can accompany them.
Judy Hollis's story is not untypical of the dozens of women I've talked to about divorce and dating.
By her own admission, Judy Hollis's behaviour was thoughtlessly promiscuous.
'For a year,' she says, 'I fooled around, sleeping with more than ten men.
We look better - and feel younger - than ever before.
Between 19, divorce in England and Wales in the 45-plus age group rose by more than 30 per cent.She says: 'Thankfully, I'd kept myself in good shape and I'm still a size 12, but the idea of whipping off my smalls in front of a near-stranger was pretty terrifying.'The first man I slept with was a 50-year-old lecturer.Although the idea of a passionate affair filled my fantasies, my sexual confidence was at rock bottom. After a few disastrous dates with men who were introduced by friends, I met a man I liked. After the massive build-up of nerves and anticipation, I was surprised at how simple and natural it all was - I had forgotten that sex is about how we connect, not whether we have perfect bodies.Judy Hollis agrees that taking those first few steps is very daunting.Health Protection Agency figures show a 60per cent increase in cases of chlamydia in 2008 in this age group, compared to 2004.The popularity of online dating and surprising lack of sexual knowledge in older adults are contributory factors.She explains: 'I'd never even slept with anyone other than my husband, and suddenly I found myself using sex with men to make me feel better about myself.' Judy joined a couple of internet dating sites and found it surprisingly easy to meet men in their 40s and 50s who wanted no-strings flings.But it's not necessarily what most women are after.We met online and within a week we'd met under the guise of going for drinks - alcohol gave us both confidence and we ended up back at my house.'He didn't stay the night, but he did send an email the following day thanking me for a "fun evening".