The gender disparity is bad enough in San Francisco that one company, The Dating Ring, has resorted to flying women into San Fran from other cities. You might think an abundance of men is a great thing, but as a wise woman once said, “The odds may be good, but the goods are odd.” “I’ve lived in Seattle for seven years, single most of them,” Annie Pardo, a 31-year-old freelance event and communications consultant in Seattle, wrote in an email.
“The only thing that has changed is the increase in men I’d never want to go out on a date with.” She added, “Can’t believe they actually strap on those new employee book bags.” For Reifman, the number of men versus women presents a challenge for guys like him—he can’t seem to get a date or hold the attention of the women he’s courting because, presumably, he’s got so much competition. My brain is very abstract, though, the exact opposite of so many men in tech who have very concrete/literal brains. I constantly felt like I wasn’t seen or valued by them, even though I experienced a lot of them as having a very limited view of the world.” Carla Swiryn, a matchmatcher for Three Day Rule, a start-up that offers curated online dating services in cities like San Francisco, Los Angeles, New York, and Chicago, said that her female clients are often hit with a double whammy: “I often hear women say they either date A-holes or nerds—or if they’re really lucky, both in one,” she said.
What was it about guys who work in tech that made them worse than lawyers or other white-collar industries?
One woman, Violet, a 33-year-old who has lived in the Bay Area for eight years, with one of those in the “belly of the beast, Palo Alto, experienced many of the same things I and other women did. They had a lot to say about their job, but their development as a complete human being seemed to be stunted. “The type of person who is attracted to these jobs and thus to the Seattle area seems to be a socially awkward, emotionally stunted, sheltered, strangely entitled, and/or a misogynistic individual,” she wrote in an email.And my city, Seattle, like San Francisco is lousy with them.Amazon, which is located less than a mile from my house, has had a huge, awful impact on Seattle’s dating scene.No, I spent a half hour or more listening to him talk about his job.Since I am not in the tech industry, I don’t understand any of it.It felt more like a job interview, but not the way a date is supposed to be a job interview.There was no grilling about where you were from and what your family was like and what you were looking for.)—are making K or more a year for their second or third job out of college, and their presence was driving the rents up in Seattle to near New York City numbers.But Reifman’s post confirmed that as Amazon grows, the number of (boring) men grows too.On the dates, they flash money around, having never really had it before.One software engineer visiting from the Bay Area was in town for a training session at Amazon before he made the move.