Dating behaviors of sociopaths
Even though I did not know at the time the exact label to place on her activity I knew in my gut that things were not normal. I also learned that I should have no contact and keep no contact. Below is the letter I sent to her before I knew who or what I was dealing with Her Name: It is probably a good thing that I am going away at this time as things are not working out for you and I.Hopefully, with this absence, we can get a sense of direction. I have been living under the impression that we were in a relationship that thrived on open and honest disclosures.I find myself doing things I don’t wish to do because of your behavior to me if I don’t. It is clear this will only continue and it is getting more intense and more frequent. They also enjoy your company and would like to see you again.At times I feel guilty and like I have to walk on eggshells just to keep less stress in my life. You make excuses for your behaviour, try to blame others, and have difficulty apologizing especially in a timely manner. You blame me for your problems, life difficulties and unhappiness. You give me unpleasant labels and make cutting remark. You get emotionally distant and emotionally unavailable a lot of the time. You disengage and use neglect and abandonment to punish me (like sleeping on the couch or the kids rooms). You don’t seem to notice or care about my feelings. You view me as an extension of your ex-husband, rather than as me the individual. You withhold sex as a way to manipulate, punish and control. You deny your emotionally abusive behaviour when I have brought it to your attention. I hate to admit it but I don’t see it getting better I don’t see a future with you. I could not assume that because you smiled a minute ago that the smile would be there when I looked again. Accept the consequences of your actions and behaviors. I have noticed a change in my demeanour, appearance, and self-esteem as a result of being in our relationship. Well, you wanted your house back and my clothes out of your closet. I will review things more later, but I want you to know that I care about you and love you very much. I do hope that we will continue to talk on the phone and keep up with each other.I need happiness and joy in my life, so I grabbed all I could in the moment. You may no longer lash out at me and be rude to me. Life is too short and precious for me to spend it with a person who chooses to hurt me. I feel as though I cannot do anything right for you. It seems I am always doing things for you just to keep things happy and at peace. I have told you this before, but it has fallen on deaf ears. The bottom line is that I am being treated very poorly now and with each passing day. I hope that when you are back in OUR CITY I can have you over for dinner when I have the kids.I need to be honest with you and myself so I can regain power over my own life, stop the abuse, and begin to heal.To be frank, I quite often didn’t see your mistreatment of me as abusive.
When we started our relationship you were concerned the children wouldn’t care for me. You belittle and trivialize me and my accomplishments, likes, hopes and dreams. You try to make me feel as though you are always right, and I am wrong. You regularly give me disapproving or contemptuous looks or body language. You regularly point out my flaws, mistakes, or shortcomings. You accuse and blame me for things you know aren’t true.
That they would reject me and you did have a desire for us to blend and bond. I cannot change anything in the house or bring in new things (i.e.
You have seen the children respect me, carefor me, bond with me, trust me, love me and even stand up to you for your rude behavior to me.
I am a 60 year old male who was living with a 50 year old female for three years. I wrote a letter to my Ex-girlfriend a few days after I left.
I had said to myself enough is enough after one of her quick insulting outbursts.