Its hard enough dating when you're single, but how about as newly divorced single mum? When my daughter was 3-years-old, my marriage came to an end and I suddenly found myself facing a path I wasn’t prepared for. Dating at any age and in any life circumstance can be daunting, but when you’re a single mum juggling making that morning’s lunch box for nursery, being on time for your work commitments, and shaving your legs for that night’s ‘hot date’, it’s a challenge.
Here Sprinkle of Glitter's uber blogger and author Louise Pentland reveals the golden rules she's learned along the way Not so long ago, I found myself in a position that hadn’t been on my naive teenage ‘Life Goals’ list. Over the months and years I picked up a few tried and tested tips and tricks. Whilst motherhood is a huge part of your life, it’s not solely who you are.
, like, “a guy told me he was looking for a girlfriend by next year so he’d have someone to split rent with.” Then there was the charmer who told his date about the time he “got wasted, peed and mopped it up with his clothes, and then wore them.” Um, yeah.The scenario: “I got a message that said ‘Obviously you’re cute, but I’m just having trouble believing that this is actually you because you seem too good to be true.My buddy thinks you’re real and now we have a bet going. ” — Kristin, 26The problem..the solution: Aside from the fact that this is a pathetic pickup line, it’s certainly never going to work. The scenario: “I went on a few dates with a guy I met online, and I eventually decided we weren’t compatible, so I was honest with him.You might also be funny, or energetic, or deeply passionate about falconry (I’m not here to judge). With online and offline dating, there’s usually that first bit where you put your pitch forward.With online dating, you have the opportunity to write a little bio about yourself.One of my very first dates in singledom was with a guy from Tinder called James.In our brief post-drinks chat I hadn’t mentioned that huge part of my life called MOTHERHOOD because I hadn’t really considered it a make or break-er.Women are easily scared away online, so you should avoid saying anything remotely controversial or predatory.Stick to neutral subjects — like mentioning a common ground you share based on something you read in her profile.The scenario: “I recently received a message that said, ‘Damn you’re a pretty white girl, you into muscular black men?’” — Kristen, 27The problem..the solution: Aside from the obvious inappropriate nature of the comment to a complete stranger, men should never mention their physical characteristics or their own body parts in an introductory message.