Successful body language dating
So why would you write an email that does the same thing?!
If you want to meet a man at a bar, you cross the room, plant yourself eight feet to his diagonal, wait for eye contact and smile. While you might have “made the first move”, you’re still in control, since he has to approach you. Emails that tell a man that he’s interesting are dull.
Eg, say you both have a love for adventure travel — you see that he’s been trekking in Nepal, and has visited the Amazon…
Natural horsemanship has become very popular in the past two decades and there are many books, videos, tapes, and websites available to interested equestrians.
That is EXACTLY the metaphor I use for private clients in describing the “tone” you want to capture in your initial contact.
You’d never hit on a guy at a bar by walking up to him and telling him that he’s cute, he seems nice, and that you’d like to buy him a drink.
It is a form of courtship, consisting of social activities done by the couple, either alone or with others.
Is it really all that intriguing when he explains why he’s a good partner for you, even though you haven’t met?
However, most of the original Natural Horsemanship practitioners acknowledge their own roots are in the gentler methods of some cowboy traditions, particularly those most closely associated with the “California” or vaquero horseman.
The modern Natural Horsemanship movement developed primarily in the Pacific Northwest and the Rocky Mountain states, where the “Buckaroo” or vaquero cowboy tradition was the strongest.
It’s a bit counterintuitive, but if your first instinct is to compliment him and explain your value, you’re not demonstrating that you have any value.
Once you put a man on a pedestal, he’s automatically looking down at you.